I am trying not to make this a rant, but I’m not going to lie, it’s a little bit of one! Bear with me….
I am over the moon excited to be a mom. I can’t wait to take my little girl to the park, to Disney World and school shopping eventually! I can’t wait to do all the fun parent things — go pumpkin picking, decorating the Christmas tree and playing Santa! With that being said, I am also so not cut out to be a stay-at-home mom! In fact, I am already going crazy being at home and little girl’s not even here yet!
I think there is nothing wrong with that! I am not a teacher and I do not get summers off, so my career is a year-round commitment . Again, I find nothing wrong with this as it allows us to live the lifestyle we want (or it will, once I pop this kid out and can find a new job! But that’s a post for another day…)
I am also a big believer in Day Care! This is kind of a new one for me as I had to get past the shocking costs associated with it, but being an only child who had a private nanny, I never got this experience as a small child. As I grew I was sent across the street to an in-house day care and enjoyed playing with the kids but ultimately liked playing alone the best. I want my daughter to love playing with her little friends and to get that interaction early in her life as she may be an only child!
My plan is to have the baby and return to work 3 weeks later. Our day care starts at 6 weeks but I have lined up help in the event that I am able to find a job that quickly and get started until she is old enough to go to day care.
Enter the horror gasps. If you are one of those people who was just baffled by that statement, I’m sorry… you probably want to skip the rest of the post though because I find this totally unacceptable!!! It is my right as a parent to go back to work so I don’t KILL the baby! I have never been a sit-at-home kind of person and I don’t foresee myself being that way even once she gets here. I am never going to be that mom that spends hours staring at my amazingly beautiful baby or the mom who delights in spending the day indoors switching between feeding and changing shitty diapers. It’s not me!
If that is you, more power to you… I am hoping that maybe once she comes I will feel more of a maternal want to do those things and not just because they are necessary. For the time being, I am dreading those poops and pukes and only looking forward to the peaceful sleeps and cute little laughs!
I have friends who are flabbergasted that I am not planning on staying home for 12 weeks or that I am going to feed the baby formula at night so she sleeps longer! How on earth is she going to grow up healthy and happy if I don’t give her the full 12 weeks or if I supplement one bottle/day! The horror of the thought!
Come on people, I don’t tell you that I completely disagree with your ridiculous bedtime routines that will ultimately fail or that I would smack my kid if she ever had a tantrum as bad as yours in the middle of a very public place. I keep all my comments to myself and my husband! Every parent has their own style and what works best for them does not necessarily work best for everyone! So what gives them the right to comment on my style?
I’m not going for the Best Mom Ever Award… I’m working on the I’m Surviving Motherhood award and hoping that my hard work and sacrifices pay off so that my child has lots of life experience like I had and that she is HAPPY. Isn’t that what we all should be striving for?
Again, I apologize for the rant, but I cannot believe that people have the openness to express that my decisions are downright wrong and that I need to re-think them to be a better mom!! Ugh!!!