Best $30 ever spent!!
As a first-time mom, I had many theories on what stuff was stupid, the things I most certainly didn’t need and how doing certain things were for overly paranoid moms with nothing better to think about
Well…. looks like I am that over-paranoid mom who now needs that stupid stuff! Funny how that happens, huh?
As Liliana approaches one week there are a few things that I have noticed would make life a lot easier that I never even considered before.
I was the mom who said that baby is going in her crib right away and we would use the monitor. Well, turns out I am the exact opposite of that cool, laid back mom I thought I was going to be. I refuse to let my child sleep overnight in her pack and play bassinet because I am afraid the cats will sit on her, I am constantly checking her breathing and I could never ever put her in her own room for the night! So when friends told me I needed a bassinet next to my bed and I told them they were crazy, turns out they were totally right! Tonight will be the first night using the bassinet as a good friend is lending us hers since her daughter is now in a crib. I’m sure I will continue to stare at her all night long instead of sleep, but at least I won’t be holding her all night anymore.
#2 A Glider with Ottoman
Man I would have told anyone who would listen that this was the biggest waste of money ever. These are a few hundred dollars at stores like Babies R Us, which is absolutely ridiculous! I figured I could just use any chair/couch to feed her on and it would be fine. Wrong again! I want a glider so bad I can’t even stand it! The convenience of having somewhere to sit and put my feet up would be incredible and the height of the padded arms would be ideal for feeding. Although I still will never spend hundreds of dollars on a chair, I am all over Craigslist looking for a cheap one that I can get ASAP.
I’m sure there will be other things that I have poo-pooed that I end up needing or doing despite my initial desire not to, and honestly each time it makes me laugh. It truly amazes me how hard motherhood is and how many challenges we’ve had to overcome in only a week. On the other hand, I wouldn’t change it for the world! I love my little bug!
Wow is it hard to update with a newborn! If I’m not busy feeding or changing, I’m falling asleep.
As I was sitting on the couch feeding Lily earlier and friends were stopping by to drop stuff off or to pop in to say hello, I got to thinking about how everything happens for a reason.
I have always been a big believer of this and, aside from a few lingering questions I can’t wait to ask God regarding this issue, I usually can piece together the reasons why things happen the way they do.
At this time last year we were looking for houses to buy in Moon Township, where we were living at the time. When we found out about Lily, I felt an overwhelming desire to move back to my home town. I couldn’t explain it, it was just there and there was nothing I could do about it.
Luckily my husband is amazing and said he will live anywhere I wanted to live as it is just as easy of a commute for him. With his blessing, I found us a great townhouse in an area near where I grew up.
All summer I hung out with old friends and had a blast, but I missed my moon friends and our huge apartment and I often wondered if we made the right choice moving. Our apartment was much, much bigger than our townhouse and our friends were now an hour away and it wasn’t as easy to hang out.
Monday I started to understand why we are where we are and how it was supposed to happen. We have had a flood of visitors everyday bringing us food and other supplies and helping out with Lily. It has been absolutely amazing to see how much the people from my childhood care and have really stepped up to help!
Our Moon friends are awesome, but there were only a handful of them and there would have been no where near the amount of support being an hour away! We are exactly where we’re supposed to be and we are surrounded by such an amazing amount of love it brings tears to my eyes.
So thank you to everyone who have helped us or just wished us well on our new journey with Lily. It has been great so far and we are so thankful for each and every one of you. A special thank you for our dear friends Melanie and Kari — because without you two I am pretty sure we may not have survived the first night home; and I’m sure our dog wouldn’t have survived our hospital stay without you either!!!
“You go nowhere by accident. Everywhere you go God has put you there. He has a purpose for you being there!”
Well, my plan to find a journal on October 5th kind of got pushed to the way side. After I finished blogging Thursday night, I just couldn’t sleep. My mind started racing with all of the things I needed to get done and, since I wasn’t tired at all, I figured might as well start now.
I went downstairs, quiet not to wake my husband or the dog, and started cleaning the kitchen. I did the dishes, loaded the dishwasher and ended up scrubbing down the whole room. After that I cleaned up the dining room and started working on coupons for the next week’s shopping trip! At about 2 a.m. I figured I should try to sleep since Kevin was going to work from home Friday and we had plans to go to breakfast and take a nice walk to encourage labor.
Well, at 3:30 a.m. I woke up with absolutely horrible pains in my back that radiated around to my abdomen. I thought to myself, no way this is contractions just go back to sleep. About 10 minutes later I had another, and another, until, finally, at 4 i woke Kevin up.
He shot out of bed like a bullet from a hot gun. Grabbed his glasses and he was by my side in the bathroom in seconds. I told him I wasn’t sure but I was thinking this is maybe labor. We timed these “contractions” for an hour. They were about 8 1/2 minutes apart by this point, but I dill not believe it was really contractions! After the hour, I figured I would give my doctor a call to be safe, but I was determined to take a shower first so I would be nice and clean if I did get admitted!
After I felt all clean, the doctor finally called back and told me to come on in that it sounds like labor! Kevin practically ran out the door. I was laughing because I knew it was early and there was no need to be rushing around yet. I sat down and spent some time with Comet explaining what was happening and that mommy and daddy may be gone a few days but will bring him back a little sister!
At that point Kevin practically threw me in the car and off we went on our 35 minute drive to the hospital. As if I wasn’t in enough pain, it was right in the middle of rush hour traffic, so it took us almost an hour to get there! I thought I was going to die!
They put us in the triage area and hooked me up to a monitor that showed both the baby’s heart rate and my contractions. The doctor was in a c section so while he was finishing we were just waiting. He finally came in around 10 a.m. and checked me and told me I was still only 3 cm dilated (which is what I was the day before at my appointment!) Since I had not changed he contemplated sending me home but I complained that we lived too far away! He told me to start walking and he would check me again at noon.
Well, we made it barely 15 minutes of walking and I thought I was going to die, so we went back to the room where I could bite the sheets and pray we could be admitted! Well, it worked! I made it to 4 by noon so we were staying. And then, just like that, holy crap it got real!
I was so nervous about both the IV and the epidural I was shaking. My nurses were absolutely fantastic and those went fast and virtually pain free (the epidural hurt a little but who am I kidding — they could have stuck it in my eyeball and I wouldn’t have cared as long as they took away the painful contractions!)
At 9:00 something happened that surprised me beyond belief and if you would have asked me even a day before, I never would have thought it would happen…. I had a panic attack and “needed” my mommy! I was hysterical and poor Kevin had no idea what to do. So, I did what anyone else would do… I called Mrs. Stanko and asked her to come be with me. She is most like my mom anyway and I really needed someone to calm me down.
As soon as she got there, the nurse said it was time to start pushing. I was scared, but so ready. With Kevin on my left and Mrs. Stanko on my left, I pushed for an hour and a half. The nurse smiled and said she was going to get the doctor. I thought to myself “this is it! A few more and she will be out.” Wrong!!!!
The doctor came in, had me push and then explained that the baby would not fit and there was no other choice but to finish with a C Section! I was devastated… especially after being in labor so long! But by then the baby’s heart rate was going up and so was my fever! Off to the OR I went and after 20 minutes the doctor yells “Happy Birthday Liliana!”
Tears of joy streamed down my face as they told me she was perfect and everything was going well. After cleaning her up, they handed her to Kevin who got to hold her for the rest of my surgery and then after I was on my way back to my room, I finally got to hold her! I was so exhausted but beyond excited! We are so happy she is here!!!!
7 pounds, 4 ounces, 21 inches long, born at 1:28 am.